I don’t know any other way to describe this past week, other than it has been a week from hell.
First I screwed my knee up…
Then there was the funeral for a friend who was strangled to death by a police officer…
Then my little sister was hospitalized TWICE with what doctors believed was a life threatening blood clot in her lungs…
And to top it all off…a long time friend and former teammate of mine has been missing in the Atlantic Ocean for 5 days and the Coast Guard recently called off the search.
Adversity X 1000.
So how do you deal with adversity when it punches you in the mouth?
I think I will probably know my own answer to that question later on this week…but in the meantime I wanted to put a few of my thoughts about how to deal with and overcome life’s various challenges/adversities onto paper…
Let’s face it, we’ve all had to face adversity at some point in our lives…and I’m not trying to sit here and complain or look for any sympathy for my situation because millions of people out there have it a thousand times worse than I do…but going through adversity sucks.
If you’re not familiar with adversity, and aren’t quite sure what it means…consider yourself lucky. It’s not fun at all.
Here’s the technical definition: Ad•ver•si•ty, noun [ad-vur-si-tee] – a state, condition, or instance of serious or continued difficulty, misfortune, calamity or distress. Synonyms include: catastrophe, disaster; trouble, and misery.
It’s basically just a time of intense pain, struggle, hardship, and heartbreak…and it typically involves difficult circumstances that just “aren’t fair” and just plain suck.
When adversity hits, it hits hard. It beats you up mentally, physically, and emotionally…it can cause you to just shut down, withdraw, feel sorry for yourself, and sink into a deep depression.
The weird thing I’ve noticed about adversity is that we all usually feel as if our particular situation is worse than anyone else’s.
We all get that “why me” or that “life just isn’t fair” feeling.
If you’ve ever gone through really tough times you’ll know exactly the feeling I’m talking about. It sucks, and it literally makes you feel ill.
Adversity doesn’t care who you are or what you do – it visits us all from time to time – and it attacks us in many different ways.
It can come disguised as financial trouble, relationship problems, illness, personal attacks, and/or work issues just to name a few. We will all face it at some point. The question is how we will respond to it.
Will we respond with strength? Or will we respond with weakness?
In difficult times it’s easy to crack and start pointing the finger – you know…blaming yourself, blaming God, blaming anything you can think of…being mad at the world…feeling sorry for yourself…
Sometimes life just throws BS at you but you just have to fight through it and look for reasons to stay positive.
There will be many battles in life that will test your mental toughness, your faith, and your resolve. I believe we are all capable of overcoming most of the various adversities life throws at us, we just have to be equipped to deal with them when they come our way.
We must mentally prepare for them…almost the same way an athlete prepares for the Olympics – and then use our new found mental strength to fight through the tough times.
I don’t know what tough times you may be going through right now, or what adversity you may face in the future…but whatever it is, never stop fighting, never quit. Always try to stay strong, remain positive, and never let your faith die.
I’m going to wrap this up with a quote that helped me keep things in perspective this week: “We have no right to ask when sorrow comes, “Why did this happen to me?” unless we ask the same question for every moment of happiness that comes our way.” ~Author Unknown
I apologize if this post made little to no sense…it’s 2am, I haven’t slept in days, and my brain is literally fried. Its really been a rough week. If you made it this far though…thanks for listening. If you’re going through a personal battle, keep fighting.
Stay strong. I’m out.